Be a better man.

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“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is superior to your former self” - Ernest Hemingway 

Better Dude Guidelines

This is a work in progress. Meaningful contributions from readers are always welcome...

So how do we become a better version of our former self?


The answer is not so simple, yet I believe that by following a few simple guidelines, we can all become better men than we were before. 


  1. Foster healthy relationships. Play in a team every now and then, even if you think you are a lone wolf, and learn how to respect, protect and stand up for those in your team.
  2. Call your mom and dad often. They miss you and may be gone before you know it. 
  3. Set a good example for your children. They are watching your every move even if you don’t think so.
  4. Never react. Ever. Keep your cool. Delete that email that you just wrote in anger.
  5. Keep a secret. No ifs ands or buts.
  6. Have dreams. And pursue them.
  7. Open the door for your loved ones. And try it with a stranger sometimes. You’ll be amazed. 
  8. Be kind to strangers, especially children. A simple act of kindness is remembered long after it’s done.
  9. Always keep a handkerchief in your pocket. Its not for you, its for your partner. And make sure you aren’t the cause of the tears.
  10. Seek out mindfulness. Prayer, meditation or just being still in your presence helps regain focus and dispels negativity.
  11. Remember that you are not only marrying the person; you are marrying their family too. 
  12. Manners maketh man. 
  13. Be generous, but never lend our your partner, your car or your golf clubs. And don’t ask to borrow those.
  14. Travel often. Sometimes on your own, sometimes with loved ones. Experience new things. 
  15. Give time and not money. Give something that cannot be returned or gotten back.
  16. Play a sport. It doesn't matter what sport. The idea is to challenge yourself.


Thoughts and musings

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